Month: July 2017

Source: joydigitalmag.com

John and I have been married for 5 years now. We decided that I’ll be a stay-at-home wife after marriage while he continues to work as a finance manager in a banking firm, and we are both looking forward to building a happy and fulfilling married life together. The arrangement was pretty much comfortable at the beginning. I make sure that I attend to his needs and take care of our household. We also decided not to have babies at first. We wanted to experience our togetherness and enjoy each other’s company before we bring in children to our family.

The values are obvious. These couples are putting the needs of their kids first and their own needs second—but it’s a close second and that’s the beauty. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

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When someone in the family is diagnosed with a family mental health illness, it becomes a family illness. It becomes a family matter altogether, regardless of who is affected. This is mainly because people turn to family first as their support system. It’s never an either-or situation where it’s better if only a certain family member experiences. But definitely, there are different challenges to it. Children experiencing depression is different from adults experiencing depression, especially parents.                                                                  …

But I don’t think this is why he quit and I don’t think this is why it’s getting so much attention. I think there may be other personal secrets that he wants to prevent the public from knowing because it would hurt his family further. — Sari Cooper, CST, LCSW

I have told these words to my best friend not long ago.

In our 30 years of friendship, I have seen him cry on three occasions. First was when his mother died when we were 10. I had to share Optimus Prime with him just so he would stop messing up my pillow with his snot. The second time he cried was during his wedding day. We were waiting for his wife at the altar and he was beaming. Suddenly, his eyes were filled with tears as she walked towards him. I had to give him my hanky so that he could wipe the tears off his face.

The third occasion to which I saw him cry was when my god daughter was born. She was a preemie and her early coming gave us all quite a scare. We really thought that she wouldn’t make it and yet she did. Actually, I joined him with the tears. I love his little girl too.…

Just when you thought you were in the clear, another fight, breach of trust, or crisis occurs making it harder to ignore the pull to leave. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

Insecurity is something we all go through at some point in our lives. Some people may feel more insecure than others. At times, an insecure partner can damage the relationship because they can become too controlling. They are constantly telling you where you can and cannot go, who you can and cannot talk to, and they want to know every single thing that you do. This can be very draining and it can have a negative impact on your marriage.…

One of the most devastating emotional, physical, and spiritual wounds in a couple happen when a partner cheats. — Sam Louie MA, LMHC

My wife Sarah and I got married in our early 20’s, fresh from college with big dreams for our careers and even bigger ones for our future family. She worked as a nurse, while I was a high school teacher. The first few years weren’t exactly smooth-sailing, but we were happy and in love.…

Every relationship has highs and lows, but when you are continually questioning the relationship, these ups and downs are more profound. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

This is probably one of the toughest problems in life and in marriage. In this case, not only does addiction have a negative impact on the partner, but also the kids, other family members, work and their own personal health and well-being. This is also another major reason for couples getting divorced. During this time, you need to be the pillar of strength. We know that it is difficult. It is also important that you do not blame yourself or feel responsible for your partner’s addiction. Rather, work on finding a solution and working on the matter at hand. Addiction is not a problem that can’t be treated and it’s not lifelong either. It can be worked on and your marriage can be saved. There are married couples out there who have survived addiction and they are now thriving and living happy, clean married lives. Here’s what you can do to help your partner overcome their addiction:

 

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