Frequently Asked Questions About Depression And Relationships

It is funny how a relationship gets ruin for no reason. Yes, a relationship may fail even without the presence of a third party. That is because emotional and mental health issues can become a factor. Some might not agree with that, I know. But for those couples who are struggling with mental and emotional health issues, the reality is different.

Not all relationships can work, especially when one or both of them already decided that things aren’t under control. Some instances believe that the mere reason for a failed commitment is falling out of love. But I doubt that. No one easily falls out of love just because they think it’s trendy or entirely necessary. There is a strong reason behind that statement, and for quite a while, I realized it was all because of the mental and emotional damage present in the relationship.

You might not agree with me, but let me explain some things to you from these frequently asked questions. From there, it is your choice to look deep into these answers and try to use them for your own relationship evaluation.


How does mental illness affect relationships? 

Mental health problems are an extremely painful and traumatic moment for all individuals as it creates a huge impact on emotional components. It impacts people’s ability to express empathy due to the persistent feelings of anxiety and isolation and causes codependency or even resentment. There is a struggle to know what individuals should do to cope with their stress while trying their best to handle other life pressure.

Anxiety and depression affect relationships in a very unnoticeable way. Sometimes, it can leave both parties unaware of their words, actions, and behaviors. Often, the mental health condition makes it impossible for both individuals to look beneath what is more important.

 What is the relationship between stress and depression? 

When stress is prolonged and promotes an overwhelming feeling, the risks for developing medical problems and mental health problems increase. Chronic stressful life situations are inevitable. Thus, the possibility of depression is right around the corner. However, the damages are not limited to that. Stress contributes to more health issues such as sleep problems, substance use problems, pain, bodily complaints, inability to focus and concentrate, etc.

 What are the types of depression? 

The common types of depression are Major Depression, Bipolar Disorder, Persistent Depressive Disorder, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), Psychotic Depression, Peripartum (Postpartum) Depression, and Situational Depression.

 What diseases are linked to depression? 

Some examples of diseases linked to depression are arthritis, kidney disease, diabetes, heart disease, lupus, HIV/AIDS, and multiple sclerosis (MS). Even Hypothyroidism also leads to depressed feelings. That is due to the fears and anxiety that tend to build-up over time.


 What is the number one cause of depression?

Research shows that depression does not just occur from simply having too little or too much of certain chemicals in the brain. Rather, there are many possible causes of the mental disorder including, genetic vulnerability, abuse, addiction, death or loss of a loved one, conflict, medications, stressful life events, dysfunctional emotions, and medical problems.

How does depression change your personality?

Though not all the time, depression can still change someone’s personality in an instant. Often individuals become irritable, frustrated, angry, and impulsive. And despite knowing the cause of the emotional and mental issues, both couples tend to ignore it because of their irrational thinking. In cases where couples attempt to quell the pain, some turn to cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, and other unhealthy habits that risk their health even further. They do not understand that mental health is associated with high risks of violence, other forms of self-harm, and suicide.

Why do females have a higher rate of depression than males?

Depression rates are higher in females than in males, especially after hitting puberty. That is because girls usually enter puberty before boys do. Thus, they’re more likely to develop earlier emotional and mental issues regarding desire, self-image, peer pressure, etc.

But despite that information, it does not mean men are less affected. While females may have higher rates of depression, males are often victims of self-harm and suicidal thoughts. That is because of gender roles where society perceived males as dominant creature that is somehow not allowed to feel or show weakness.

How do you deal with sadness in a relationship?

While everyone’s depression experience is unique, few things can help couples address the situation. The first and foremost step is to educate themselves about the danger of depression. Both need to separate facts from fiction. The couples should focus on taking care of one another and find support with each other’s presence. Both of them should not take their stress and anxiety personally, and they should not lash out at one another. They need to become a team to win over their mental health issues.


What is a toxic relationship?

The answer is simple. A toxic relationship is when couples don’t support each other. When the goal of one of them is to undermine the other, then that is considered a toxic relationship. Everything around these people is competition, compensation, favors, and extreme imbalance. Toxic relationships do not compromise, give, forgive and forget.

How do you know if your partner is mentally unstable?

It is vital to pay close attention to your partner when it comes to depressive symptoms that are affecting your relationship. One way to identify if your loved one is mentally unstable is when there is often aggression. When your partner often gets upset, he or she might be dealing with emotional and mental issues that are hard to express. When your partner loses interest or shows no empathy towards you, that is also a sign of unstable mental health. When your partner cannot admit mistakes, fears criticisms, stiff with others, dramatic or overacting, then those are warning signs too.


Be mindful that not because you think your partner is okay does not mean he or she is. It would be nice for to you talk with your loved ones about his thoughts and feelings. Allow your partner to express his emotional and mental struggle. Because sometimes, the only way you can get rid of depression is through being there for the one you love.