Finding A Balance Between Career and Marriage

                   

Around 50 years back, it was normal for the husband to have a career and provide for the family, whilst the women stayed back home and took care of the kids and the household duties. In today’s times, its normal for both husband and wife to have a flourishing career. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a woman being financially independent and successful. However, it has become a common issue with married couples who spend most of their time focusing on their careers, which leads to problems in the marriage.

It starts with a gnawing in your gut that your marriage is not what it was, what you thought it would be or hoped it could be. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

Both husband and wife work long hours and spend little to no time with each other. This leads to frustration and some couples even end up getting a divorce. This is devastating! Finding a balance between career and marriage is possible. If you neglect your partner and even your family members due to your career, it’s inevitable that you will regret it later on life. So, before this happens, here’s some tips that you can help with finding the balance between marriage and your career:

Set Aside Time for Your Partner

Allocate some time for your partner. Set aside a day that suits both you and your partner. Plan your work schedule out accordingly and your work hours. Try and spend an entire day with your partner or family and try and make this a weekly routine.

Plan Some Fun Activities

After you’ve allocated the time for your partner; plan some fun activities for you and your partner to do. Something which you both enjoy. It can be shopping, going for a picnic, going out for dinner, or even sitting at home, watching movies and cooking together. Whatever, it is that you both enjoy doing together.

Only a small percentage of solely romance-based unions pass the test of time. — Stan Tatkin Psy.D.

Set Your Work Goals

When setting your work goals and hours, be reasonable. Don’t overexert yourself. Set realistic goals. Ones which don’t leave you burned out or leave you with no family time and time for yourself.

Cut Your Living Costs

Try and cut out unnecessary expenses. Usually, the more expenses you have, the more both partners have to work to cover up these expenses. Wherever its possible, try and cut it out. Set a budget for your expenses and stick to it. Also, avoid getting yourself into debt, this will make your life, marriage and work life less stressful.

 Respect Each Other’s Careers

Respect is most definitely the foundation for a healthy marriage. As a matter of fact, any relationship requires respect. Likewise, you and your partner need to respect one another’s careers. After all, it’s something that’s an important part of both your lives and more importantly, is what helps you pay the bills. By respecting each other’s careers, it will also strengthen your relationship.

Set Boundaries with Your Career

By this, I mean don’t take any phone calls from work while you are spending time with your partner and avoid discussing business during this time. It’s all right for you and partner to talk about how your day went and your successes in your career. However, it shouldn’t be the only thing that you discuss.

Of the kinds of parenting dilemmas I see in my office, parent burnout is among the most common and unrecognized. Remarkably, most parents don’t even realize they’re suffering from it. — Sean Grover L.C.S.W.

Plan A Vacation Together

Plan your work schedules and plan to take your leave at the same time. Try and take at least a week off from work and plan a nice vacation. Even better, if you could save up some money to go on a trip overseas. This will help you de-stress and also give you a break from work. Moreover, it’s time to work on your marriage and enjoy some quality time with your loved one and make memories that you both can cherish for the rest of your life.…

How To Become The Best Partner In Marriage

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It’s true that nature provides us with a jet-fueled libido at the beginning of a relationship, but that does not guarantee a long-lasting, happy relationship. — Stan Tatkin Psy.D.

When we decide to commit, spend the rest of our lives and marry somebody, we envision a fire of romance without the glimpse of it fading away. As a husband or a wife, how do we keep on falling in love with the same person every day? How do we become the best “part” of being partners? Is it really possible to have the same gravity of falling in love from the first day you set eyes upon each other until you are old and gray? Here are some of the tips that stood the tests of time which can make it work as if every day is your honeymoon stage.…

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Take Together, Stay Together

From seeing an online therapist to walking out the door, couples do all sorts when they have problems within their relationship. All couples argue and even when it’s a one-off, it can turn into something far more serious. It’s a natural part of life but sometimes it causes couples to walk away from one another. You wouldn’t think trivial things would make two people split up and yet it happens each and every day. So, how can a couple stay together even when they have problems at home?

You have a right to ask for the things you need (emphasis added) in a relationship. — Catherine Aponte Psy.D.

Fights Will Happen

First and foremost, you must understand that while you are a couple and love each other, there will be times when you disagree and dislike one another. Fighting, shouting, screaming and arguing are all a part of married life. It’s natural to do all those things but it does also show your passion and how much you care about them. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t argue. However, while it’s common to argue, it’s also very important to understand you need to work to overcome them. You cannot avoid an argument because they will happen sooner or later but you need to find a way to forgive and move on. Sometimes, seeking the help of an online therapist can make all the difference.

Staying in indecision—regardless of what the indecision is about—is draining. But leaving is hard. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

You Must Work Together To Overcome Differences

As said above, you need to find a way to overcome your differences so that you can move on and essentially stay together. There is no point in staying together if you are constantly arguing and bringing up the same points as always as it’s going to frustrate both parties. You cannot argue on a Monday about money, forgive what the other person says and then throw it back in their face the following week. That is a waste of time and you’re going to be left unhappy too which is why you have to find a way to work together to overcome your differences. You need to find out how to control anger if you get angry and work through the issues you’ve been having. There is no point in staying together if you cannot overcome your differences.…

Married For Life

Couples really don’t like the idea of looking into free online counseling. It’s not hard to see why. When you and your partner have a problem you honestly don’t consider seeing a therapist or counselor. For most couples, they are willing to bury their heads in the sand in hopes of avoiding the crux of the problem which isn’t always ideal. Being married for life can be a wonderful thing and even though no marriage is perfect, it’s possible to overcome those little issues.

Every relationship has highs and lows, but when you are continually questioning the relationship, these ups and downs are more profound. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

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How to Have a Healthy and Happy Marriage

You may or may not be familiar or comfortable with a therapeutic relationship and are not convinced it can really help at this point. — Karen Kleiman MSW, LCSW

Will online therapy really solve relationship hardship? In today’s fast-moving, fast-paced world, there are no perfect couples. You see people fall out and move on all the time and it’s sad how so many don’t find their perfect match. For some, they have found it but have let it slip away all because they couldn’t find a way to overcome their disagreements. However, is there really any way to have a healthy and happy marriage? Well, yes, there are a few ways. Not convinced? Why don’t you read on and find a few ways that might just help you?…

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How To Stay Married For 50 Years

There is no perfect relationship. Even those who stay married for more than 50 years will tell you that their union is far from perfection. But yes, there is a “forever” type of love – the type that ends when both the husband and the wife are with the Creator. “Til death do us part, right?”

Still, the question remains: how can we achieve that “forever”? Random couples aged 60 to 80 years old in the US, who have been married to the same person for 50 years, were asked of their love secret and they mentioned a few things.

If your relationship has hit a rocky patch, confronting the issues now could transform your marriage — and save it from destruction in the future. — April Eldemire LMFT

A Better Life Together After My Husband’s Infidelity

Is it possible to have a great life after discovering your husband’s betrayal?

I don’t expect other women to follow what I did. I won’t even suggest how I handled my experience to other betrayed wives. No, I won’t. But I will tell my story in the hopes that others will learn a valuable lesson out of it. I also want them to make their firm decision – to stay or to go.

If you’re like me, you may feel utter shock and maybe even a bit of disdain about the idea, but once I investigated, it actually made good sense. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

Yes, my husband was wayward. He cheated on me and it was right under my nose for years. I didn’t even see it. What’s more, he fathered a child with his other woman. But where are we right now? We are in a better place and each day that passes, life is more meaningful. We’re still together – full of love, commitment, devotion and respect.…

When Love Conquers All

I decided to stay with my husband even after I caught him cheating.

My mother called me stupid and hung up the phone when I told her about it. One of my sisters slapped the back of my head so hard, I was literally dizzied for a few minutes. Another sister of mine acted like she couldn’t care less. Insensitive, true. My older brother, on the other hand, held me and told me that it will all be OK. Apparently, he cheated on his wife a year ago and they survived it all.

You might think that what cheating is would be obvious. You might think that what an orgasm is would be obvious too, but that isn’t always so either. — Isadora Alman MFT, CST