Is it possible to have a great life after discovering your husband’s betrayal?

I don’t expect other women to follow what I did. I won’t even suggest how I handled my experience to other betrayed wives. No, I won’t. But I will tell my story in the hopes that others will learn a valuable lesson out of it. I also want them to make their firm decision – to stay or to go.

If you’re like me, you may feel utter shock and maybe even a bit of disdain about the idea, but once I investigated, it actually made good sense. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

Yes, my husband was wayward. He cheated on me and it was right under my nose for years. I didn’t even see it. What’s more, he fathered a child with his other woman. But where are we right now? We are in a better place and each day that passes, life is more meaningful. We’re still together – full of love, commitment, devotion and respect.…

I decided to stay with my husband even after I caught him cheating.

My mother called me stupid and hung up the phone when I told her about it. One of my sisters slapped the back of my head so hard, I was literally dizzied for a few minutes. Another sister of mine acted like she couldn’t care less. Insensitive, true. My older brother, on the other hand, held me and told me that it will all be OK. Apparently, he cheated on his wife a year ago and they survived it all.

You might think that what cheating is would be obvious. You might think that what an orgasm is would be obvious too, but that isn’t always so either. — Isadora Alman MFT, CST

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You’ve exchanged your ‘I Do’s’, but now what? A happy marriage doesn’t just happen. It needs love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship, and faith to make it last. Most importantly, you need to work on it together.…

(Instead of Thinking about your Ex)

After a break up, you’ll experience all sorts of emotions and feelings. You will be shocked at first and will be processing the idea of you and him being over. It’s possible that you’ll attempt to text or call him to talk about reconciliation, but then you will remind yourself not to get desperate. Moreover, you will remember what he has done to you. And then, you break. You cry and shout at the top of your lungs. It’s crazy, really. Ending a relationship is just like experiencing death. The person who “lost” his or her loved one will “grieve”.

If you don’t enjoy looking into a mirror and seeing “A Cheat”, don’t put yourself in the position of looking into a sweetheart’s eyes and seeing “A Cheat” reflected. — Isadora Alman MFT, CST

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