How to Keep the Passion Alive

Staying in indecision—regardless of what the indecision is about—is draining. But leaving is hard. — Susan Pease Gadoua L.C.S.W.

The couple who are in a long term relationship can all relate that at the beginning of a relationship, there are the so called butterflies and sparks coming out of nowhere. Everything was blissful and beautiful between you and your partner. But as the years go by, or maybe even decades, that spark and excitement will eventually fizzle out. That is perfectly normal actually, all kinds of relationships will go through that stage. But as they say ” Marriage is hard work between two people who refuse to give up on each other”.

Below are some helpful tips that can re ignite the fire of passion between you and your partner.



An open communication between you and your partners goes a long way. It is one of the secrets of successful marriages. Set aside a time each day wherein you and your partner can talk about anything and everything. A simple ” How was your day?” question can make a difference.

Having an ongoing sexual relationship in your marriage is important. — Lisa Thomas LMFT

Try Something New

Being in a long term relationship can sometimes feel boring. Probably because of the regular routines couples do on a daily basis. Having a list of a relationship bucket list can spark the excitement for new experiences or adventures together.


Date Night

Finding work-life balance is a bit hard sometimes. But remember that finding a”we time” is very important to keep the relationship and the passion alive. You can schedule a once a month date night wherein you make an effort to look your best and enjoy a romantic dinner.

Go the Extra Mile

Expressing your love for your partner and making an effort to show it, is also important in a long term relationship. To break your regular routine, why not think of a way to surprise your partner? Do something unexpected that he or she will love or be happy about. This does not have to be expensive, the effort that you put into it to make your partner feel special and loved is what matters.

You have a right to ask for the things you need (emphasis added) in a relationship. — Catherine Aponte Psy.D.


Having goals together as a couple, be it short or long term can work wonders in a relationship. Working and planning on them together can strengthen your bond as a couple. You get to see and be excited for your future together while slowly achieving them one by one. These goals can be anything that you and your partner are passionate about. These could be things that can help you develop better as individuals, like may be pursuing your dream to study again, run a marathon, or save enough for a dream travel destination.



Flirt with Each Other

Long-term relationships tend to become more like friendship kind of relationship. Spice things up by flirting with each other as if you were still dating. Keep your fantasies alive by letting you partners bedroom fantasies come to life. Try the things you have always wanted to try.

These are just some of the ways you can try to spark the passion in your relationship. But always remember that you should both put effort on keeping your relationship.